Here’s the letter that I current have drafted for when I come out at work. My current plan is to send the final on Friday after I get home from therapy. Wish me luck!!!

Dear [boss],

I am writing to you today to let you know that I am a transgender male. I have privately identified as male for a long time, even before my time at [company]. This year I have chosen to start presenting as this identity in public and have begun my medical transition last month.

I am aware that this may cause some complications at the work place, particularly when it comes to communication. From here on out, I would greatly appreciate it if you and the team could address me with male pronouns: “he”, “him”, and “his”. As for name, I would like to be referred to as “JT” (see how I made it easy? 🙂 ). I do not expect anyone on the team to immediately adopt these new terms, but do please use them as often as you are able.

I do not know how you would prefer to relay this new information to the team, whether immediately, during the next company call, or at the next retreat. I am open to any of these options. If you would like me to send or draft a company-wide email instead, I can do that too.

By the way, when is the next retreat?

Please let me know if you have any questions. We can address the paperwork side at a later date since I do not anticipate a legal name change until later this year. I do not require a change in email, though if you believe it is in the company’s best interest, might I suggest the handle jt@[domain].com?

Anyway, thank you so much for understanding and for all that you have done so far!


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